So I’ve been debating on whether or not to post this for a while now, considering the expectations and standards employers now hold regarding your online presence, but I’ve decided to take the risk.
I’ve used this blog as a, well, blog for over 6 years now and I shouldn’t let my future employers give me doubt on what to post here. Fairytales is my personal, creative writing blog and that won’t ever change.
If you’ve been with me since the beginning, I don’t know how to thank you enough. But if you’re new, hey, it’s nice to meet you. The name’s Jen. I am now 22 and a college graduate. I have way more confidence in myself than I did when Fairytales first came to fruition and I (finally) found true love. Also, happy 2016!
Now onto the main point of this post: cliche’s, because, well, everyone goes through this transition after college into the “adult world.”
However, no one ever tells you how difficult it is. You will feel stuck; you will feel like the last four years went by too quickly; you will second-guess what industry your degree is in; you will feel intimidated to begin your job search, no, your CAREER search.
I feel like everyone I knew that graduated before me went through this all alone, and now I am and it sucks. It sucks!
I didn’t get any warning. I didn’t hear any of my older friends complain or vent their insecurities to me. All I heard was:
“Oh, he found a job in blahblah state and is now loving his new life.”
“She’s such an adult now, living on her own in a big city and she loves her job.”
“Yeah, he moved back home with his parents, working a retail job, and his only friends are his co-workers who are either high schoolers or already parents. But he’s sticking it out, trying to find that right job to jump-start his career.”
Or the scariest one:
“She moved back home, has no friends left in her hometown and is working a dead-end job that has nothing to do with her degree.”
I think what sucks the most is that there is no real “guide” to direct you down the right path. This is ADULTHOOD. You pave your own path.
Well, paving your own path is hard. Can I just complain for once about this? Our generation has been conditioned to following the path our parents and the government have paved for us: Go to pre-school, go to elementary school, go to middle school, go to high school, go to college. Some even go to graduate school or further and get their PhD.
They used to expect us (college grads) to get a job, get another job, get another job, then find your career and stay put. Now they expect us to jump right into our career with our feet running.
Do you know how terrifying that sounds?
Don’t get me wrong, I am super grateful for the opportunities my life has given me to be able to have an education and to be able to do something with it. Please don’t take me to be an unappreciated college grad, because I understand the privilege that I have with a Bachelor’s degree, but am I the only one to feel this way? No, I can absolutely tell you, I am not.
But no one complains to the younger generations about it, so when they finally graduate, they feel just as lost. Well, that stops here! Let me be the one to share my insecurities about the “adult world” with you all.
I’ve already started paving my own path by using the fortunate college connections I have and am currently a freelance PR and social media consultant for a local business in my area. Because of my great college education, I am able to hit the ground with my feet running… I just haven’t really “hit the ground” yet with both feet.
This is my first paid PR-industry position after college and I’m feeling my way around. I do enjoy my client relying only on me to get things done, and so far it hasn’t been overwhelming all by myself. However, I will admit, I do miss working as a team with great people like I did in college. The creative brainstorming that can occur with a group is just something you can’t beat. But I’m excited to see what I can do for my client and to be able to help their business prosper.
I think I’m doing better off than some of my graduated peers who are only working retail, but then some of my other graduated peers already have a permanent full-time PR position. So I’m trying, but I’m stumbling.
I can see multiple paths, miles away, I just need to choose a path and start running.
So yeah, I’m stuck. Yeah, I’m intimidated. Yeah, I have no one but myself to make this decision. But that doesn’t mean I’m alone.
What I’ve found to really help is a great support system. It could be your parents, really amazing college professors, your college career development center, some awesome LinkedIn connections, or a head hunter. All you have to do is take that first step and reach out for it.
I have just begun to. I’ve only been a college graduate for a little over a month, and boy, is the pressure intense, but I know I can do it. I will find my way and pave my path into adulthood.
Some people just need to understand that it takes time…